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Birds and Bees Podcast is a sex positive education podcast with a specific goal in mind, to empower parents and couples to have sexual health conversations with each other and with their children. We strive to meet this goal by interviewing experts in their respective fields to provide listeners with tools to discuss topics in regards to: sexual development, building intimate connection, sexual health and healthy communication. We believe parents should have a source of reliable information they can turn to as they teach their kids about sexuality. Many parents feel they don’t know enough about sex to answer their child’s questions, how to bring up sexual topics, when to bring them up etc. We want this podcast to be your personal reference you can turn to when you have questions.
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Nov 14, 2019

Why do people take birth control even if they’re not sexually active?

As a male, how can I better support my partner in contraception?

How do I even start talking to my teen about contraception?

Do I need to if I just teach them abstinence?

 

Today we’re talking about these questions and more. Its all about contraception how to implement it, understanding it, and teaching it to our teens.

 

Rebecca Simmons  is one of the presenters of the RMSS this event, they will be presenting on Novmeber 16 on contraception and how it affects our choices in sexual practices. Today’s episode is meant to give us a general understanding about contraception with men, how to talk to teens about contraception and laws that affect contraception.

 

This interview is brought to you by The Rocky Mountain Sex Summit. The 2019 Rocky Mountain Sex Summit will be doing a deep dive into reproductive sexual health.

 

Rebecca Simmons, PHD is a Research Assistant Professor at the University of Utah in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Dr. Simmons directs the evaluation for the statewide contraceptive initiative, Family Planning Elevated, and works on other implementation research. Her research interests and expertise include fertility awareness-based methods, comprehensive contraceptive access, health technology, and implementation science.

 

If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at birdsandbeespodcast@gmail.com

 

I will be on The Late Late Show with James Corden on November 18 to chug mustard to encourage parents to "mustard" the courage to talk to kids about sexual health. I'd love to have you join me!

 

Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.

Nov 13, 2019

Dale Miller is a sex educator at The Smitten Kitten and they are on the show today to give us up to date facts about lubrication, dispel myths and answer the questions about lube that you never thought to ask!

 

Dale Miller is one of the presenters of the RMSS this event, they will be presenting on November 16, 2019 on everything you need to know about lubrication. Today’s episode is meant to give us a general understanding of lubrication.

 

This interview is brought to you by The Rocky Mountain Sex Summit. The 2019 Rocky Mountain Sex Summit will be doing a deep dive into reproductive sexual health by bringing in the best and the brightest literally from around the world share the content that is LEADING the conversation on reproductive sexual health.

 

Understanding our reproductive journey?

 

What is the impact of contraceptive choices on our sex life?

 

What's the role of ovulation in the overall health of a female?

 

How is perimenopause influencing sexual health, mental health, emotional health and relationships as a whole?

 

What are the resources and options we can provide to our clients to help them feel informed and empowered as it relates to menstruation, contraception, perimenopause?

 

The RMSS will be covering these topics and more! go to Rockymountainsexsummit.com to get your tickets or find out more.

 

This event is for everybody not just clinicians.

 

On a personal note, I have been invited onto The Late Late Show with James Corden on November 18 to chug mustard. While I won’t be able to explain to the audience that I chug mustard to encourage parents to "mustard" up the courage to talk to their kids about sexual health, I will be up there chugging for all of you to keep the buzz alive!

 

IF you find this episode supportive I encourage you to think of someone who could use this episode and share it with them. We’re all growing together in these discussions and you sharing this may be the support they need to start these important conversations with their kids.

 

If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at birdsandbeespodcast@gmail.com

 

Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.

 

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Oct 30, 2019

Do you have painful periods?
How about irregular periods?
Have you taken birth control to "regulate" your periods?
Are you a partner of someone who experiences issues with periods?

Lara Briden is on the show with me today. She has over 25 years experience working with women and issues with menstruation. She has followed the cutting edge research dealing with periods. She's on the show today to give us a sneak peak into her upcoming presentation called "Ovulation Matters" at the Rocky Mountain Sex Summit (RMSS) on November 16.

In this episode we talk about the evidence in research that has been coming out. Some common misconceptions, issues with hormonal birth control, what actions you can take with nutrition to address some common symptoms and the topics she'll be covering at the RMSS.

This is such an important topic because 3.75 billion people in the world are female bodied individuals. Almost all of them experience menstruation. It is such a common experience and has historically been under-researched and many women suffer from PCOS, endometriosis, irregular and painful periods. Frequently told that it's normal and to just "suffer through it." Lara is here to share the news that it does not need to be something to suffer through.

This episode is brought to you by the rocky mountain sex summit. If you'd like to attend the RMSS in salt lake 2019 visit RMSS.com to register.

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Resources from the Show

Laurabriden.com  Her Blog Referenced in the Show

Period Repair Manual  Her book we reference in the show

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Oct 9, 2019

What do I do about Snap Chat and the possibility of my teen sending nudes?
If masturbation is against my beliefs how do I bring it up with my teen while following my values?
How do I get my teen to respect boundaries?

Dr Holly Richmond is on the show with me again, this time to address boundaries with teens.
We are talking implicit and explicit communication in the family, how that affects teen behavior, why the "lockdown" parenting style is problematic and ways to teach your teen boundaries.


This is such an important topic because of the amount of teens who have access to electronic devices now days and how demanding action from a teen can be as easy as telling a baby to stop crying. Dr Holly Richmond and I explore the conversations to be having with your children right now to prep them to become teens who know boundaries, set their own boundaries and respect boundaries. We also explore methods to approach masturbation and values and helpful conversation starters when approaching teens about sexual health.


If you find this episode supportive I encourage to think of someone who could use this episode and share it with them. We’re all growing together in these discussions and you sharing this may be the support they need to start these important conversations with their teens.

If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at birdsandbeespodcast@gmail.com

A listener asked if I give presentations. Yes, I do! I present to religious groups, couples, and parents about masturbation and values, addressing out of control sexual behavior, how to address kids looking at porn, and building intimacy during infertility. Check out my presentation page at birdsandbeespodcast.com I love questions from listeners, keep them coming in!

Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.

 

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Sep 25, 2019

Does it feel like sexual connection has taken a backseat to parenting?
Are you just waiting for your kids to get older for better sexual experiences?
Do you ask yourself, "what is appropriate to tell my kids when when they wonder what we do in our room?"

Dr Holly Richmond is a somatic (body-focused) psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT). Dr Richmond has been featured in Vogue, New Your Times, Netflix, NBC News Forbes and many other media outlets helping relationships across the world. She is also a mother of two young children and is putting this topic to work for herself. In this episode we are exploring ways to keep sexual connection alive in the parenting years while also teaching your children about respecting your privacy.

This is such an important topic because of the amount of parents I see coming into my office longing for more physical and sexual connection but being unsure about ways to obtain it with young children. Dr Holly Richmond and I explore quickies, conversations, planning, and other methods to take back your sex life from late night tired and possibly frustrating experiences, to times where it is best for you and your partner.

Often we put our relationship last as we parent children, It can feel selfish or unloving. In this episode you'll find why it's important to challenge that thought and ways to improve your sexual connection starting today.

If you have any questions please feel free to leave a voicemail or text at 385-449-1818 or email me at birdsandbeespodcast@gmail.com

Thank you again for listening. I appreciate you being a part of the hive.

 

Resources from the show. 

Sensate Focused Therapy For couples that are interested in learning more about this method we spoke about on the show. 

 https://health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf

Sex is a Funny Word by Cory Silverberg Great for 4-8 year olds.  https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Funny-Word-Bodies-Feelings/dp/1609806069 

 

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Aug 14, 2019

What have you been told sex would feel like for the first time?

How do I keep novelty in a committed long-term relationship?

What kind of sex life do I want my child to have when they are adults?

 

Earthly parents are the author of the book “And It was very good” one member of Earthly Parents joins me today to explore these questions and address many of the myths that people believe about sex.

 

Hey everyone, This is Braxton Dutson welcome to Birds and Bees Podcast 

 

This interview is unique because we will be speaking to individuals who identify themselves with a more orthodox religious belief. While his book is directed toward the Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. The discussion is relevant to anyone who is planning on being in a committed relationship while participating in religion.

 

As for the last question, “What kind of sex life do I want my child to have when they are adults” We help parents explore this question for themselves as a tool to guide conversations with young adults as they look toward their future relationships.

 

The authors have generously offered their book to The Birds and Bees Podcast listeners for free. All you need to do is email earthlyparents@gmail.comand ask for the book. They’ll email you a copy of the book. I personally have found the book to be a great tool for those who want to address sex in their relationship while being a part of an orthodox religious belief system. Especially if you are a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

 

 

Jul 31, 2019

In the last episode we learned just how prevalent STD/STIs are and ways to talk to your teens about them. 

Today, on Birds and Bees Podcast, Jenelle Marie Pierce returns with advice/information about what YOU need to know about STDs. Whether you enjoy one night stands, open relationships, celibacy or monogamy you need to know about STIs.

Jenelle tells about her experience with Herpies, what getting tested is like, when you should get tested, and what it means if you contract an STI and other important tidbits about STD/STIs

Many people wonder if an STD/STI is the end of your social/love life?? Jenelle has a few words about what having an STD really means for your future. 

Jenelle is an advocate for sexual health and would love to hear your questions. you can email her questions or email Braxton Dutson your questions about STDs. She has gracefully offered to come back on the show for a Q and A when we get some questions put together. 

 

https://www.thestdproject.com 

https://www.ourbodiesourselves.org 

https://www.amazon.com/X-All-You-Need-Know-Progressive-Sexuality/dp/1600940102 

 

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Jul 17, 2019

What is an STD? What are STIs? What's the difference? Probably one of the first questions Jenelle is asked anytime she speaks about STDs. It's a great question and probably a question your teenager has probably asked you before. 

What do you think of when you think of your child having an STD? Fear? Shame? Distress? What might your reaction to your child be if they were diagnosed with an STD?

These questions, along with many others, are addressed in this episode of Birds and Bees Podcast with Jenelle Marie Pierce. Today she is speaking with Braxton about what teens don't usually know about STD/STIs. She covers what misconceptions are commonly taught, what they need to know and what you need to know as a parent.

"I don't need to have this talk with my child because we teach to wait for sex until marriage." I love that you're having these conversations with your child. However, even if we are teaching abstinence until marriage there are other ways to contract STIs. With how much of a world wide issue this is, it is important that our teens understand STDs. 

Braxton and Jenelle explore how to address STD conversations with your children, continuing curiosity with your teen after a diagnosis of STI, and 

 

Resources spoken about in the show. 

https://www.scarleteen.com

https://www.thestdproject.com 

https://www.ourbodiesourselves.org 

https://www.amazon.com/X-All-You-Need-Know-Progressive-Sexuality/dp/1600940102 

 

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Jun 12, 2019

When someone "comes out" in their sexual/gender orientation one of the first questions is "what does that mean for their relationship with God?" This question is based on the social assumptions of them leaving a religious belief and needing to "gain" a spirituality somewhere else. What if an individual who identifies as "queer" has all the spirituality in themselves? What if this is the case for all of us?

Braxton speaks with Jerry Buie, LCSW about queer spirituality. Jerry gives a history of how queer individuals have been revered in different cultures and indigenous peoples. He explores the way we look and experience "spirituality" in our interactions with others especially if you are, or know someone who identifies as queer. 

In a world where all of us live in a society that has a dominant religious belief, there is room for exploring what spirituality means, how to explore your own spirituality and how to be supportive and connected to your yourself, your child or your grandchild who identifies as queer. 

 

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Apr 24, 2019

Masturbation, There are a lot of euphemisms for the word that makes many people uncomfortable to talk about. Let's face it, many parents are worried about what it means if their child masturbates. 

 

If you are a parent who wants to be able to support your child in building values around masturbation while also avoiding shaming them then this episode is for you. Braxton and Natasha Heifer-Parker, MFT, CST are here to help dispel myths, talk about values, talk about masturbation, and to support parents in creating a value-centric view on masturbation. This is especially supportive for those who live in religious communities and practice themselves. 

 

Many of us have grown up in a religious setting that explicitly or overtly teaches values about masturbation. It is difficult to be able to follow these values while also addressing the reality that the majority of children are participating in self-soothing/masturbation practices. 

 

In this Episode we explore: 

 

The question "when does masturbation usually start?"

 

Speaking to values when addressing masturbation 

 

Different approaches to conversations about masturbation with your child. 

 

Avoiding shame when having these (multiple) conversations. 

 

Creating "I Do's" in what you value, VS following a "to Do" list.

 

Historical views of Masturbation and how they affect us now. 

 

Identifying what we want for our children as a sexual being later in life. 

 

Offering a value-centric view on Masturbation in religious communities while addressing the ways we can best support our children. 

 

Natasha Helfer-Parker, MFT, CST speaks with Braxton about being able to explore these topics, address uncomfortable situations, and improve your understanding about "The M word." 

 

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Mar 28, 2019

On B&BP we talk a lot about teaching your children about sexual health but what if your child is on the autism spectrum? This can bring many new questions to the table. Tara Pennington and I hope to shed some light on autism and sexuality. While we can't cover it all in an hour (or many hours at that) we wanted to start here.

I met with Tara Pennington who has been working with individuals who have been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) for over 15 years. We're here to talk about autism and sexuality, a topic that can be hard to speak about for many parents. We're glad you're joining us. 

Tara and I explore some of the issues that arise when we think of sexual health and Autism. Tara give some helpful tips on parenting a child on the spectrum with ways to interact and support your child. We explore sexual topics that usually create an uncomfortable feeling for parents and we explore resources for parents. 

 

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Resources 

Autism Council of Utah https://autismcouncilofutah.org

Autism Speaks https://www.autismspeaks.org

 

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Mar 28, 2019

Have you been to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for a baby? Do you know someone who's there right now with their child or has been there with their baby? chances are it was a scary situation, unplanned, and difficult to understand what was happening. Devin and Cami found themselves in this situations on a couple of occasions.

 

Interestingly enough Devin is a therapist and Cami works for a hospital who provides services to the NICU. They are sharing their story with us today and the insights they feel other parents need to know if their baby needs to stay in the NICU. 

 

Cami and Devin explore the emotional, mental, and physical stressors they experienced, what to expect in the NICU postpartum, methods they used to seek closure, and advice they would give to any parent going through this scary situation. 

Jan 10, 2019

Braxton Dutson sits down with Lennie Knowlton, CMHC to discuss shame and how it affects everybody. They explore what you don't know about how shame and trauma affect the body, how the body is made to respond, why your therapy may be working against your natural instincts and what you can do to start changing your shame cycle. 

 

Read the Entire script at birdsandbeespodcast.com 

 

Lennie speaks to these specific topics find them around around 5 minutes after the set timestamp. 

00:04:35           NEUROBIOLOGY 

00:07:27           TRAUMA MAKES OUR BRAINS UNWILLING TO BE VULNERABLE 

00:12:28           DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SHAME AND GUILT

00:33:47           THE IMORTANCE OF MINDFULNESS TO ADDRESS DISTRESS

00:35:21           PROTECTING CHILDREN FROM SHAME BY ADDRESSING PARENTAL SHAME.

00:41:20           CONNECTION IS THE ANTIDOTE TO SHAME

00:51:53           HOW DO WE EMPATHIZE WITH OURSELVES

01:00:34           EXCLUSION IS A SHAME TRIGGER "YOU'RE ENOUGH IF"

 

Resources from the show:

Find these on our website in the notes of this episode. We will have links to these resources. 

Dan Siegel "Brain Storm" book

Yohan Hari

Brene Brown "The Daring Way" book 

Kristin Neff (The Art of Self-Compassion)

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